To the women who know how to put your foot down. What’s the secret?

Posted by: laidtips  :  Category: Uncategorized

I have tried all I know. He’s an alcoholic. I tell him to get out, he says no. I threaten to leave, he says make sure you take it all, because you’re never coming back in here. He’s missing more and more work. He’s usually at least an hour late daily and misses a few days a month because he’s hung over and has been up all night. He plays World or Warcraft every moment he isn’t working. He does sleep overs a couple times a month…probably with his brother. He won’t have anything to do with me physically…nothing. I have no proof, but I’m pretty sure he’s using drugs.

I hate that I feel like my only option is to leave and struggle or stay and be miserable. I am a complete idiot for having kids with him…I already know that. I would really like to know how a strong woman would deal with this. I always hear women say “I wouldn’t put up with that”. Do you mean you’d leave? Or what would you do? Who would you involve? I can’t find a counselor who will see us until he’s ready to deal with his addiction. He does not think he has a problem. He thinks I am his problem. He’s called me a retard and has threatened to have me put away in a mental hospital if I keep bugging him.

How do I put my foot down? Or do I have to leave? I’m so scared for my kids future, whether I stay or leave. He has told me he’d vanish before he’d pay child support to me, so that’s out of the question to count on too.

Help. I know he’s messed up and I would rather make it work. Help.
Anne, we’ve done the intervention. He won’t go and he refuses to leave the house.
Again, I’m hearing make him move out. HOW??? That’s what I want, but he won’t go!